The statistics on pornography are staggering—some report that one in five people view it weekly—leaving behind a hidden heartache few are willing to talk about. For Jody Allen, author of Hidden Heartache: Finding Courage When Your Husband Struggles with Pornography, that heartache became a deeply personal reality.
The Hidden Heartache Revealed
In this conversation, Jody shares how she walked through shock, anger, and grief when her husband’s secret came to light—and how God met her in the middle of the mess.
We talk about:
- Jody’s discovery of her husband’s pornography addiction
- Signs that pornography may be a concern in a relationship
- How to identify your feelings–like shame, anger, or disappointment with God– and what to do with them
- The journey to forgiveness and release of shame
- The story of the bleeding woman (Luke 8) and how Jesus took a private pain and brought public healing
- The myth that forgiveness automatically leads to reconciliation
Instead of staying silent, Jody chose to speak up so that other women would know they’re not the only ones facing this hidden battle.
Grace in the Hidden Heartache
Her story is raw and redemptive, showing that grace is strong enough for even the most broken stories—and that Jesus, the true Problem Solver, can bring beauty from betrayal.
Jody is an author, speaker, and women’s ministry leader who isn’t afraid to talk about hard realities.
💬 Grace in the Hidden Heartache Quotes from Jody Allen:
“While we need to acknowledge our feelings, we can’t let them be the drivers of how we manage our lives.”
“Forgiveness is not fair.”
“I had to put my focus in the right place. Instead of on the problem, I had to focus on the Problem Solver. Jesus is the Problem Solver.”
Scriptures Mentioned:
Ezekiel 36:26 “And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.”
Luke 8:43-48 (The Story of the Bleeding Woman)
Hidden Heartache Resources Mentioned:
🌿Jody Allen’s Book: Hidden Heartache: Finding Courage When Your Husband Struggles with Pornography
🌿The first four chapters of Jody’s book
🌿The Feelings Wheel and other free resources
🎶 Jody‘s go-to grace song: Made for More by Josh Baldwin
Connect with Jody Allen:
Website: jodyallenwrites.com
Instagram: jodyallenwrites
Facebook: jodyallenwrites
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